I need some tips/opinions/help

[FBI]

fbi like this girl, a lot. Shes really pretty, cute, smart, friendly and nice. Overall, she's 10/10 on my scale. she's half a year younger than me, and currently in pharm school, first year. fbi is not so smart, senior in civil/structural engineer, but i'm doing good in school lately, and hopefully I can have the desire grade to get in grad school. Yesterday, fbi decided to cook, and called her over to eat, we lived in the same apartment, its a group eating thing, so its nothing personal. She came over dressing nice and stuff, make up on (in a hurry or something, still have some left over on the chin) She offered me some help, show up early, help me cook, and clean up my mess after i'm done. she also volunteered to set up the dishes and clean up the table after dinner. Because she's busy, have her intership at 8am, so I didn't really take my time to go out, beside a simple good bye when she left, I could have walk her home, but I forgot. I knew her for about 4 months, but most of the time, because of summer and we lived far aparts, we only chat online. Recently, when school resume, I got to see her for about 4 times now, and she being very friendly and stuff. Now my biggest question is, I'm not sure if she have any feeling for me. I'm a shy guy, I don't have the gut to tell the girl the truth, and most importantly, I don't want to get rejected. One question thats always on my mine is that such a beautiful and smart girl like her, why still single? Is that because she choosen school over relationship, or no1 had land their eyes on her? I want to start a relationship with this girl, but I also value our friendship, I don't want it to end. Any help is appreciated. This is the first time ever that I had a crush on anyone. I never been in a relationship before. I'm 23 and she will turn 23 in 3 weeks.

[cis]

This is what I would do if I were you.... I would plan out a perfect day for her birthday, ask her to go out with you on her birthday. Ask her in advance like 1 week ahead... Buy something nice for her birthday with a birthday card. if you are shy person then write in the birthday card. Please buy a dozen roses, specially the red rose.. If she reject to go out with you, still give her the present and the birthday card... BTW, find more chance with her and talk with her more in the next 2 weeks.




A lot of experts in here will reply to your post... Anh Dzịt đâu, ra help đàn em cái coi :) :)

[UncivilizedAMD]

Grow a skin and ask her out. Don't let things pass by or you will regret it. Openess is the key here. Maybe she has the same feelings for you too but she is a girl so its your job as a guy to make the move. Go on a one on one date. Do the gentleman routine that shows you want to be more than a friend, open car doors, open entrance doors, seat her at restaurant. Flirt a little at first and see how she responds. If its a positive response, make your intentions known but don't be so abrupt and direct that it scares her. If she rejects you, most of the time it will be in a polite way that will let you down gently since she is your friend. Then after the rejection, just talk to her normal as if nothing happened. Try to act the same way as before to make the situation comfortable and she'll ease right back to being your friend.

[seanguyen]

Chú FBI này rắc rối quaaaaaaaaá!
Why don't we swap position now, I wouldn't ask too much :D j/k
You question should NOT be "I'm not sure if she have any feeling for me." but must be "I'm not sure if I have any feeling for her." and nothing wrong with getting rejected.

[May Trang]

This is what I would do if I were you.... I would plan out a perfect day for her birthday, ask her to go out with you on her birthday. Ask her in advance like 1 week ahead... Buy something nice for her birthday with a birthday card. if you are shy person then write in the birthday card. Please buy a dozen roses, specially the red rose.. If she reject to go out with you, still give her the present and the birthday card... BTW, find more chance with her and talk with her more in the next 2 weeks.




A lot of experts in here will reply to your post... Anh Dzịt đâu, ra help đàn em cái coi :) :)

oh well, if a girl doesn't like/love you just yet, why should she spend her birthday with you?
plus, what if her birthday will be another 11 months? :newwink:

[yeudoi]

Ask her out bro :D. Don't be shy, because time won't wait for you bro. :D. Goodluck

[Lina]

Don't be shy, get over it, you are a guy and you should make the first move before it's too late. Ask her out, spend time with her, talk to her whenever you have chances. Beside that, you have to keep in mind school go first, whatever you do, don't let it interfere/influence with your study since you haven't finished school yet

[the_passenger]

nếu mà fbi hông muốn tiến tới luôn thì cho tui biết info của nàng đi, giúp đỡ anh em cũng được mà :D

take your chance and move on even if you'll get rejected. Her birthday is a good time to show her you care for her.

[La_Zieu_Bong]

looking thru may cai respond thay the majority is suggesting FBI to go for it and lieu` mang ask her out roi to*i' ddau thi to*i'.
Rieng tui thi tui nghi khac, if tui ma` in position cua FBI thi` I would save asking her out until tim` hieu her abit more and know that she has some feelings for me first. Start off la` ban than first roi tu` tu` tien to*i' and ask her out cung ddau co' muon. ddau. That way u can be sure 100% success.

Good Luck

[GioLanh]

I would just ask her out for a coffe / tapioca drink as a friend ... do not try to push anything yet ... wait to see what her response at the end ... ask her out again for lunch ... check her response ... ask her out for dinner .... check her response ... ask her out for movie ... act like a man.

[minibini]

how did it go FBI?? got guts to ask her out on that one date??

There's always a first time, and repeating the other saying, there's nothing wrong with rejection. Your face might get red & hot, but after awhile, you'll be fine.

If you guys ever get started dating, go slow. Understand each others needs and wants & most importantly, be honest about your feeling *don't keep things to yourself, discuss them with each other*.

[FBI]

I still didn't find the opportunity. Because of school and exams coming up, also her internship, i dont want to do something that might cause both of us doing bad in school, since i respect her and want her to do well. This week, I'll try to find the moment and ask her out. Yea, I really don't care if I get reject, but because there're some confusions, such as she knew that I like her, every1 at the university knows, and if she doesn't like me or anything, she shouldn't return my calls when I call her. Something like she's trying to play hard to get. I just found out that I have 2 competitors, hehe. I gotta act quick :) both of them are older than me, one is 28 and the other is 32. I don't' care that I have competitions, as long as I'll do my part, then I'm fine. So this week, I'll ask her out, and tell her that I like her, and want to be with her. If she doesn't want to go out, then I can move on, be her friend again. It's kinna bad that if it doesn't work out as lots of my friends supported me, and all of them think that I'm a better match.

[FBI]

I failed. She wanted to be a close friend of mine, and want to concentrate on her study. Oh well, I can only respect her decision. may be some time in the future, thing can change a bit. Im so glad i got this over so i can move on. thanks for the help people.

[FBI]

I failed. She wanted to be a close friend of mine, and want to concentrate on her study. Oh well, I can only respect her decision. may be some time in the future, thing can change a bit. Im so glad i got this over so i can move on. thanks for the help people.

[MuaHaTuongTu]

so sad, let focusing on your study, things might change in the future or maybe you will find the most compatible one. good luck

[carman2q]

dang, you have more gut than i ever will
poor fbi :(

[FBI]

Its hard to get over it. First time is always the most memorable one I guess. Damn, I turned off 2 girls this summer because I thought I can be with her. Sometime I think about it, I keep on blaming myself for not taking action when its time. I've mention above, shes the perfect girl for me, her looks, brain, smile, personalities, skills, voice, whatever it is, shes perfect. Sometime, I kinna cried inside when thinking about it, you know. Its like the winning lottery ticket in front of you, but u can't have it, only see pass by.

[aznblood]

That's ok to fail man! Failure is a teacher of success. Dont worry, there will always be someone out there better for you.

but wow, you give her a 10/10? are you kidding me? what University do you go to? I never give anyone a perfect rating because I acknowledge the fact that noone is perfect.

In my humble opinion, I think she has made the right decision. Having the gut to say no and continue with school, for that reasons, i admire her. I really like those type of girls who are goal oriented. Be friends with her, and dont give up yet because this girl is rare.

[yeudoi]

That's ok to fail man! Failure is a teacher of success. Dont worry, there will always be someone out there better for you.

but wow, you give her a 10/10? are you kidding me? what University do you go to? I never give anyone a perfect rating because I acknowledge the fact that noone is perfect.

In my humble opinion, I think she has made the right decision. Having the gut to say no and continue with school, for that reasons, i admire her. I really like those type of girls who are goal oriented. Be friends with her, and dont give up yet because this girl is rare.

But becareful she may not wait for you then. You could try to ask her out again in the near future. But you are racing and may wasting your time and effort if she does not has a feeling with you.
So it might be better to move on. The ocean doesn't contain in a fish tank. It's easy to love others if you just given them a chance of winning you. That way you could give the person you love a better figure than the person who doesn't love you.

[madman]

Never should have asked her out in the first place. Should have just be her friend, study with her, hang around with her, flirt with her. In time, it will develop into something else. Now it's a little harder since she knows you have feelings for her! Anyways, you're a good guy, she's out there.

Oh yeah one more thing, be cool, be confident, know that you're awesome and any girl would be lucky to have you. Girls digg confidence. The more you try, the more you turn them off!

[CAptain DaLaZBoi]

I failed. She wanted to be a close friend of mine, and want to concentrate on her study. Oh well, I can only respect her decision. may be some time in the future, thing can change a bit. Im so glad i got this over so i can move on. thanks for the help people.

Oh brave one ...

Just keep on being a friend with her ...

Who knows .... she may reconsider .. or you will find out her "true" self hehee

G'luck...

[FBI]

I learned a lot from this, like the ability to express my feelings. I'll still wait for her tho. I have 8 months left to prove to her that I'm the one for her. She been treating me really nice and friendly, like her roomie and her sister, which I know. I don't think that after going to many parties and stuff, everyone has a date, and we are alone won't change her feeling. I mean, she can only study so much, theres other part of her life that she needs to share it with someone too. Like myself, I never like anyone simply because I don't see any that I like, but when I saw her, its different. And I did take my time get to know her, enough so that she willing to tell me about her personal life and family and history. So yea, theres still hope, all I have to do is to prove to her that I am the one and only one. If theres no other way, may be by the end of the year, when I graduate and still didn't get accept into grad school, i'll tell her that I'll wait for her, until she find someone thats better than me, because she doesn't deserve anyone less.

[ChiLaMuaThuRoi]

I learned a lot from this, like the ability to express my feelings. I'll still wait for her tho. I have 8 months left to prove to her that I'm the one for her. She been treating me really nice and friendly, like her roomie and her sister, which I know. I don't think that after going to many parties and stuff, everyone has a date, and we are alone won't change her feeling. I mean, she can only study so much, theres other part of her life that she needs to share it with someone too. Like myself, I never like anyone simply because I don't see any that I like, but when I saw her, its different. And I did take my time get to know her, enough so that she willing to tell me about her personal life and family and history. So yea, theres still hope, all I have to do is to prove to her that I am the one and only one. If theres no other way, may be by the end of the year, when I graduate and still didn't get accept into grad school, i'll tell her that I'll wait for her, until she find someone thats better than me, because she doesn't deserve anyone less.

Chúc FBI nhiều may mắn . :)

"Yểu điệu thục nữ, quân tử hiếu cầu" ... nhưng có nhiều cái , nếu xa tầm tay với thì đừng ráng sức quá , để rồi cuối cùng nhìn lại thấy mình đã đánh mất nhiều thứ cũng tốt đẹp không kém ở bên cạnh . :)

[MuaHaTuongTu]

Chúc FBI nhiều may mắn . :)

"Yểu điệu thục nữ, quân tử hiếu cầu" ... nhưng có nhiều cái , nếu xa tầm tay với thì đừng ráng sức quá , để rồi cuối cùng nhìn lại thấy mình đã đánh mất nhiều thứ cũng tốt đẹp không kém ở bên cạnh . :)

I agree with sis DK

[dijital]

That's ok to fail man! Failure is a teacher of success. Dont worry, there will always be someone out there better for you.

but wow, you give her a 10/10? are you kidding me? what University do you go to? I never give anyone a perfect rating because I acknowledge the fact that noone is perfect.

In my humble opinion, I think she has made the right decision. Having the gut to say no and continue with school, for that reasons, i admire her. I really like those type of girls who are goal oriented. Be friends with her, and dont give up yet because this girl is rare.

LOL You admire a girl for saying no? and her reason was school? Then you must admire a lot of girls then. It was not like FBI ask her to marry him.

[GioLanh]

I failed. She wanted to be a close friend of mine, and want to concentrate on her study. Oh well, I can only respect her decision. may be some time in the future, thing can change a bit. Im so glad i got this over so i can move on. thanks for the help people.
Dude,

let me guess:
U came to her and said something like "I like you. Can we go out on a date? Can I be your bf?" ... if any of this closes to what U say, U fail for sure :D

Muon cua gai thi phai:
1) very sweet talker
2) if she's not the type who likes sweet talk, then change strategy, go slow and smooth

[DaPooh65]

Hmmm...I was wondering if she is interested in the other older guys. In my onion, I mean opinion...the majority girls like older men. They think or know that men equal in age or a year or 2 older are not mature enough for them. Women like to feel "secure" and "protected"...even career women. If there are signs that she is interested in the older competitors then her excuse of focusing on career is a lie. It that the case, stay away from her and don't waste your time trying to "prove" that u are the one for her. If she is/was really focusing on her career and no interest in the older guys...than you still have a chance. Be a good friend to her, be there for her when she neeeds help..she will feel confident enough to accept that you are the protector, you are the MAN....good luck FBI.
ps. May chi em...correct Pooh if pooh wrong nhe.
Pooh

[ChiLaMuaThuRoi]

Pooh nói hông có gì sai hết . :)

Để rút kinh nghiệm cho lần sau , FBI theo sư phụ ColdWind học hỏi "cua gái" kìa . :D

[kdtty3k]

FBI i know how u feel man...when i was in HS i liked this girl very very much for 3yrs but never got the b@lls like u to express my feeling to her. and she moved very far but we still keep in touch and talk every single night she share all her problems with me, on Xmas or B-day we would send each other's gift. it go on like that for 2yrs. last yr she moved again but this time it close so every summer she would go back and go to Doney Park with me. one summer i decided to tell her my feeling and she kindda shy away. that nite was the nite i thought i would kissed her and she be the one. couples days later we talked over the fone and i found out that she had some feeling for me too but just not as strong as mine. during winter break she went back to china to visit things kindda fade away and i start to talk with one of my old female friend which and then we found something in commons and boom we been to gether for 8months. oh and yes i still keep in touch with my HS crush, we still talk but occasionally, b4 skool start she came back and we went to Doney Park together just like old days.... so good luck FBI u will find love when least expected.....

[FBI]

Good love is hard to find, so when you find one, u gotta cherish it. I only knew her in a short time, 4 months total, most of the time, we are on summer break. But yea, I'm still young, and I got school ahead of me, so I won't rush or anything. I always believe if something belong to me, then it will be mine, no matter what. if it's not, then there's nothing I can do. right now, i'm still friend w/ her, we talk, chat occasionally, like couple times a week. Other than that, I don't want to do anything to serious that make her think that I'm still like her, i'll just let it flow. I always ask myself tho, a lot of people here that know her for a long time don't even have her fone #, and she volunteerly gave me her fone # and her yahoo IM name so we can keep in touch over the summer. it gotta be something right? normally, i only ask a girl for fone number, never a girl ask me for 1.

[VNCH]

Well.....good luck on school FBI, it is the door to open all your future ...

[DemyGod]

Reading this post reminds me of the best period of time in my life. I have to admire your courage for taking the first step and asked her. I don’t want to sound like a smartass but I just want to share my opinion. Taking actions are the best thing you can do in this situation. Most people told you to wait out and be her friend. That is the path to isolation. The path to Let Just Be Friend land. If you google LJBF and you will understand LJBF is a place where you don’t want to be it. Ask anyone in your peer if they know a situation where a guy follow a girl around, drive her around, do her homework, and get nothing. This guy is what I call follower. He is a nice guy taking care of his girl he like, she treats him well, tell him what she feels, tell him how good person he is, but she only see him as good friend, then she even tell him how she likes other guy. But this nice guy is such a good person and love her so much that his life is just to please her because he believse in the idea of good things will come to good people, and if he stays around her long enough she will find it in her heart to love him. It is his hope that one day she will realize how much he loves her and return his love. Well it sounds so good like a movie, but it rarely happen. The only time when a girl love this kind of man is when she is going around the block and is sick and tire of dating around so she want to settle down with someone she can trust, and moreover she is getting old. She can’t beat the fight against age so she finally ask the follower to marry her because the follower is always there for her, very dependable, always do what is right for her. this happens a lot.

Wow, I write too much, again I just to wish you luck and tell you that taking action is the best thing you can do in your situation.

[GioLanh]

how about "friend with benefits" ? :)

[Intell]

NÍT RANH mà cũng bày đặt đi yêu với đương. Làm mấy chuyện ruồi bu, kiến đậu :robber:

the majority girls like older men. They think or know that men equal in age or a year or 2 older are not mature enough for them. Women like to feel "secure" and "protected"...even career women.
Pooh

TOTALLY WRONG!!! Trong tình yêu thì phải nói đến cảm giác và sự yêu thích về tánh tình của đối phương, chứ không hẳn chú trọng hết vào sự trưởng thành hay là sự hiểu biết gì cả :) Ok, cho dù theo ý của DaPooh nói là người con gái khi thích một người đàn ông thì phải kiếm người nào lớn tuổi chút, vì những người đó đã có cái mà người ta gọi là "TRƯỞNG THÀNH và CHỮNG CHẠC"; vậy nói xin lỗi cho tôi đặt lại câu hỏi là người con gái đó nhắm đã có đủ tài cán hay tài năng gì để chứng tỏ cho tôi thấy là cô ta đã trưởng thành và chững chạc, hay có sự hiểu biết chưa. Nếu thật sự cô ta không có những yếu tố nêu trên, thì sự yêu cầu mà cô ta đòi hỏi hay đặt ra chỉ noi lên cho tôi biết, cô ta chỉ là một người "Bù Nhìn" mà thôi :robber: :robberhat

ohh btw, có những cậu 30-35 tuổi đầu, tôi thấy vẫn còn nít ranh chứ đừng nói đến chuyện là phải hơn nhau 2 hay tới 5 tuổi :robberhat


"Women like to feel secure and protected" ....... Phffff..... Sorry honey, I can't even protect myself on the battlfield.....how can I protect you......you should be protect yourself at all time, and be alert at every moment to make yourself secure......If NOT, thennn my recommendation for you is go out there and find A GAY GUY, so he can protect you......how about that :robberhat EXCUSE ME!!!! :robber:

[ChiLaMuaThuRoi]

NÍT RANH mà cũng bày đặt đi yêu với đương. Làm mấy chuyện ruồi bu, kiến đậu :robber:



TOTALLY WRONG!!! Trong tình yêu thì phải nói đến cảm giác và sự yêu thích về tánh tình của đối phương, chứ không hẳn chú trọng hết vào sự trưởng thành hay là sự hiểu biết gì cả :)


Hình như 2 câu này bị đối nghịch ý nghĩa lẫn nhau . Không biết Intell có biết & hiểu chính mình đang viết cái gì hay không nữa .


Theo cách nói chuyện của Intell thì tự người đọc nhận biết được ai con nít, nông cạn và ai người lớn rồi . :)

Dở áo cho người xem lưng woài . :D

[dijital]

[QUOTE=Intell]NÍT RANH mà cũng bày đặt đi yêu với đương. Làm mấy chuyện ruồi bu, kiến đậu :robber:


I dont know but I do it everyday... HOHOHO. :Z:

[Intell]

Hình như 2 câu này bị đối nghịch ý nghĩa lẫn nhau . Không biết Intell có biết & hiểu chính mình đang viết cái gì hay không nữa .


Theo cách nói chuyện của Intell thì tự người đọc nhận biết được ai con nít, nông cạn và ai người lớn rồi . :)

Dở áo cho người xem lưng woài . :D

Giỡn chơi hoài cô, tôi nói ra thì phải có cái lý ở trong đó chứ; xin cho hỏi DK nè, khi DK thương hay yêu một ai có phải là điều trước tiên là từ cảm giác không, hay khi ai đó yêu đối phương có phải là vì tánh tình của người đó nên làm mình thấy thích thích tới người đó không. Đó mới gọi là tình yêu thật sự, còn khi yêu mà nhìn từ người đó với một khía cạnh là có trưởng thành chưa, có hiểu biết không, có tài đức khinh bị gì không, có tiền không. Thì chắc câu trả lời DK hiểu rõ hơn ai rồi nhá :robber:

Còn anh bạn FBI gì đó, bị từ chối thì thôi, let move on, "Những gì mình thấy đó chưa chắc là những thứ mình thích cho mai sau" that's my QUOTE for you :robber: Chứ có gì đâu mà phải prove này prove nọ chi :robber: FBI proves cho người ta thấy được gì??? Nếu she không có cảm giác không thích bạn, thì bạn có prove người ta cũng đâu thích bạn đâu :robber:

Còn nữa, tôi đã nói rồi, tôi không có lớn hơn ai hết, tôi mới có 18 tuổi thôi mà, tôi đã lập đi lập lại ở trong đây nhiều lần rồi mà :robberhat Ai nhắm lớn hơn tôi thì cứ lớn đi, chứ tôi đâu cần gì ma vạch áo cho người xem lưng :) Tôi sợ tôi vạch ra người đứng dòm chưa đủ tầm nhìn để mà nhìn thấy trên lưng tôi có gì đó :robberhat

[ChiLaMuaThuRoi]

dk biết Intell còn con nít , ý nghĩ nông cạn nên dk hông chấp nhất chi . :D

[Intell]

dk biết Intell còn con nít , ý nghĩ nông cạn nên dk hông chấp nhất chi . :D

Còn ý nghĩ của DK chắc cũng thuộc họ hàng nhà nông luôn, nông phu cũng hông chừng :newwink: We are on the same boat. You jumb, I chèo :robber:

[ChiLaMuaThuRoi]

Còn ý nghĩ của DK chắc cũng thuộc họ hàng nhà nông luôn, nông phu cũng hông chừng :newwink: We are on the same boat. You jumb, I chèo :robber:


Nông phu còn hiểu khi biết thì thưa thốt , hông biết thì dựa cột mà nghe ... chứ dzân nông cạn không biết mà toàn cãi lý , cải bướng ... nói ra bị họ cười thúi đầu . :D

Mà Intell lộn ai rồi đó ... chứ dk hông có đi bằng "boat" , toàn đi bằng "car" hông à . :D Cho nên hông có dám jump ... ra ngoài lộ hay freeway đâu . Intell ráng chèo 1 mình giữa biển cạn của Intell đi nghen . :D

[Intell]

Nông phu còn hiểu khi biết thì thưa thốt , hông biết thì dựa cột mà nghe ... chứ dzân nông cạn không biết mà toàn cãi lý , cải bướng ... nói ra bị họ cười thúi đầu . :D

Mà Intell lộn ai rồi đó ... chứ dk hông có đi bằng "boat" , toàn đi bằng "car" hông à . :D Cho nên hông có dám jump ... ra ngoài lộ hay freeway đâu . Intell ráng chèo 1 mình giữa biển cạn của Intell đi nghen . :D

Ok, I'm nông cạn :robber: :robberhat

[siesta]

Mấy người mình là nông dân, nông phu, hay nông cạn gì cũng vậy!

Gặp Nông Đức Mạnh là chạy tét hết! :D

[dsuqtran]

Yêu là mù quáng mà cu Teo

[hainguyensm]

FBI, it's never too late ... all the medical girls said the same thing.
I was there before ... but never look down on yourself. From your first posting, I could tell that you're already lost ;-) ... Seriously, you are not confident. You need to remember "Nha^'t nghe^. tinh, nha^'t thie^n vinh".

It does not mean that you're just a Civil Engineer and you cannot run for the president of USA ;-) ... even the actor like Ronald Reagon still become a President ... So never ever look down to yourself. One way is too find out what her field is all about. I had a girlfriend in Pharm before. After graduation,
do you know what they do ?

They worked like any assembly Technician. There's no fun. All they do is to make sure putting the right medicine in the right bottle. The only difference is that they remember a long words so that they can perform their job right. Yet, most of them work for medicine. A lot of Pharm girl in this field because they want to get close to Doc or to start a business by themself. Believe it or not, Doc does not like Pharm girl ... and starting business is very difficult.
Can they compete with Walgreen and Walmart, Costco ? ... NO !
My X-girlfriend in Pharm and till now, after graduated so many years, still could not get marry ...

So, do some study and research and explain to her the future ...
And then tell her that it does not mean that she's going out with you and date with you that means she cannot study ... it's just an execuse ... never know that with you, she'll be able to study better ...

Try the best you can before you give up ... This way you don't regret ...
I have tried and let go so many sucker ... some are till this day still single ... They think they are still young ... 20 somthings ... but time goes by fast ...
After 35 years old, the woman has to consult the doctor if she can bear a child. Counting back from that age and see at what age she should start thinking about man ?

A lots of girl like to travel ... enjoy life after graduate and so they don't want to get into any relationship. But it's not true that having the relationship, you cannot do those ... being single and travel is not fun ... Having a partner to travel and sit on the beach is always fun ...

Paint her the future you want to have ... tell her your dream and ask her to join you to fullfil the dream ...