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Hoc Sinh
10-09-2006, 05:56 AM
We been in many big argument because of this issue and it time to stop. She want to bring her best friend, which is my gf's mom consider her as her daughter (nhan lam con nuoi, not i paper) so my gf want me to go back to VN and do a fake marrage to bring her over. I refuse and refuse, everytime she asked we end up arguing, so now she decided that she will do a fake marrage for her brother's friend to get money and pay somebody else to do it for her friend. She still will pay me if i do it but not at one shoot. And I offer to give her the money pay other people pay me back anytime but she refuse. Yesterday she broght it up again and we argue, i told her if she decided to do it then she doesnt respect me and i will breakup with her, she said that she had decided it and she will stick to it. so i broke up with her. It hurts me alot because i gave up everything just to be with her, and she is my first love. What do you think? Am I too much? I dont think so.
snoopy
10-09-2006, 06:47 AM
what kind of girl asking her bf to do that? she doesn't even fit to friend category :encore: forget about her as soon as possible :hair:
ViVan
10-09-2006, 07:37 AM
Forget about fake marriage for money ... not that easy especially for you if you don't want to involve with the law (could impact on your future career too). She just care for her friend than you .... forget her for your own good
Hoc Sinh
10-09-2006, 08:00 AM
so what i did wasn't too much? i didn't think so either. I gave up everything to be w/her, even my family. i choose her over my family and friends, now she choose her friend over me and the worst part is i have to help her doing so.
She did not consider your safety, she did not respect your opinion and solution. All she wants is sitting on your head and demanding. This is the 1st time I've ever heard a gf ask bf to do fake marriage to someone else? What about her own? She's not worth to be your gf.
cathi
10-09-2006, 09:47 AM
Just one sentence for you: she doesn't love you :)
ViVan
10-09-2006, 09:47 AM
so what i did wasn't too much? i didn't think so either. I gave up everything to be w/her, even my family. i choose her over my family and friends, now she choose her friend over me and the worst part is i have to help her doing so.
You made a mistake when you gave up your family to be with her. Now she know you would do anything for her ... she just use you, not love you. It's time for you to forget her and come back to your family ... No matter of what, your family is alway there for you, not her.
steveh
10-09-2006, 09:48 AM
Vietnamese proverb: "Làm ơn, mắc oán"...stay away from this fake marriage!!! It's better be safe than sorry...
so what i did wasn't too much? i didn't think so either. I gave up everything to be w/her, even my family. i choose her over my family and friends, now she choose her friend over me and the worst part is i have to help her doing so.
well done bro . . . you did right and don't have any regrets for her (and her mom), how can they ask you to do this ?? I wonder they are just using you to get some dirty money ?? so stick yourself to your decision :good:
Hoc Sinh
10-09-2006, 09:13 PM
oh man....I cant believe it....she chose her friend over me...
FlirterSanHoe
10-10-2006, 03:29 AM
Hmm if you gave up your family for her and she knows that too, and she still plans to do this marriage thing then she doesn't love you the way u deserved to be loved. Good move on ur part. She'll always put other people ahead of you. Obviously she doesn't take your love very seriously.
Hoc Sinh
10-10-2006, 06:09 AM
I know, but it not really i choose her over my family but my parents they are very controling.
ViVan
10-10-2006, 07:03 AM
I know, but it not really i choose her over my family but my parents they are very controling.
Controlling parents are diff issue to deal with. Just stick with your decision about your gf.
Everyone of us have controlling parents. Just think and act as adult to earn the trust from your parents. You will understand your parents more when you get older.
Hoc Sinh
10-10-2006, 07:10 AM
what is that means? so it ok if my gf go and do a fake marriage to get her gf over here?
Hoc Sinh
10-10-2006, 07:12 AM
no u guys dont understand...i dont care she asked to do it b/c i know she knows that i WILL NOT do it...but my problem is that she want to do it for her brothe's friend so he can do it back for her friend...
dijital
10-10-2006, 07:31 AM
no u guys dont understand...i dont care she asked to do it b/c i know she knows that i WILL NOT do it...but my problem is that she want to do it for her brothe's friend so he can do it back for her friend...
Yeah it's a trade-off, happens all the time and I know a family that are looking for a partner now. But in this case I guess she's just not taking you seriously or you’re just not in her future. First love eh?
“First cut is the deepest” :) Cheesy I know.
yeudoi
10-11-2006, 06:21 AM
My wife ask me to go back and marry her friend. How about that :D. Hehhehe...
the_passenger
10-11-2006, 07:15 PM
dude, her best friend or her girl friend? (lesbian?) have you ever think that she's one of 'em ?
snoopy
10-11-2006, 08:44 PM
mà quên hỏi ... ai trả tiền vé máy bay và chi phí ... đừng nói bỏ tiền túi ra .... nếu có cái vé đi "chùa" thì gởi qua tui... tui chịu thiệt thòi dùm cho ....hahhaa
La_Zieu_Bong
10-12-2006, 05:42 AM
so what i did wasn't too much? i didn't think so either. I gave up everything to be w/her, even my family. i choose her over my family and friends, now she choose her friend over me and the worst part is i have to help her doing so.
chuyen thien kinh dia nghia nhu dzay cung dda lam roi thoi thi tien~ phat tien to*i' noi luon ddi con ngai. gi nua chu*' :Z:
Hoc Sinh
10-12-2006, 05:51 AM
Snoopy giam lam HS cung dam cho lam ddo...LZB noi lam HS thay toi loi qua. Ma toi loi thiet, but u dont understand, my parents they want to shape me the way they want it. They pick my career for me and now, i end up changing my major 5 times. Not only my parents but my sister so i stuck in the middle, and my gf is my comfort zone, I know she's no near perfect but she's my comfort zone. Last summer when i work far away from home, she know i eat mi` go'i everyday, so she come up and visit and bring me food twice aweek, and from her house to my work place is about 2hrs.
Hoc Sinh
10-12-2006, 05:51 AM
sorry double
xoivo
10-12-2006, 01:40 PM
You may try these.
1. Try to find a legitimate and temporary husband for your girlfriend's girlfriend: old, sick, disabled, ...
2. Apply for a visa to invite your girlfriend's girlfriend to visit US. Once in US, do party a lot to find a hubby!
3. Tell your girlfriend's girlfriend to associate with a VNese company. Then on that company behalf, visit US to do business, then party a lot to find a hubby. After visa expired, live lowly a little longer. During then, and you and your girlfriend would want to support the next president who may allow all illegal immigrants to become naturalized!
4. Tell your girlfriend's girlfriend to go die to resurrect a US citizen.
5. Pretentedly, deliberately act like you are interested in different girls. Then you watch to see if your girlfriend scare of losing you or not. Sometime you need to ask/act to get the answer/response!
Good luck! I hope you can save your relationship with your girlfriend, AND not commiting unlawful deeds!
WAIT: Another approach is dump her, go back to your family and friends and become a good son! You don't worry committing unlawful deeds, not lonely anymore, become a good son and they in turn will help find you a better girl!
La_Zieu_Bong
10-13-2006, 05:24 AM
......hong biet US law co' allow lesbian marriage hong huh????:D
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