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nhovephuongnam
07-21-2007, 03:44 AM
Long story but let me try to summarize it as much as I can.

I have been dating this girl for almost 8 months now and it's a long distance relationship. I live in Washington and She's in California, and she's also about 2 years older then me.

2 nguoi ai cung lon het roi, 2 muoi may tuoi het roi, i'm her first boy friend and she's kind of my first girl friend ( I dated someone else for about 33 days). Everything is going good, I visited her 6 times this year already but she said she doesn't want me to do taht too much, because I work hard for my money. She said I can only visit 2 more times this year and she made me promise, so I promised.

But recently, a lot of things been boring me. I'm ok with her not visiting me, du sao di nua cung la con gai, and ba me cung hong co bang long about me and her dating. But one of her friend is about to go to Virgina for school, and her friend and her are planning on visiting him in the winter and she asked me if i wanna come along. I don't know what to say, it bothers me because she never mentioned about visiting me and here she's about to visit her friend somewhere else.

Then, just bad timing, she just got a job, her first job, she works from 8 - 4:30, I just got a new job and I worked from 3 - 11:30 PM. So we don't get to talk much anymore, I called her during my break, skipped my lunch to talk to her. and she keep on mention about all these guys at work, and how they're really nice to her. Next week, they're gonna go to the bar. She told me all this and I just have this jealous feeling inside.

I don't know what to tell her or how to tell her. I usually don't get jealous but somehow I do now. Is this normal?

Ban gai cua minh do*n so* la('m, hong co' nghi nhieu, I told her that she doesn't think much and she said agree, everythign i mention somethign that i'm not happy with, she said that she never thought about it that way and she ask me to tell her next time if somethign like that ever happens again. She said she never thinks much, she only think about what's infont of her and that's about it. Nothing much bothers her. I don't know what to do. I love her very much and I want things to work out between us.

What should I do?

Thanks for reading...

light
07-26-2007, 08:27 AM
light don't want to discourage you...but honestly, i do not believe in long distance relationship....and the bar thing is just the beginning....you gonna need lot of luck....good luck bro

noshadow
07-26-2007, 02:53 PM
long relationship just doesn't work. (there are few exceptions, off course).

erik
07-26-2007, 04:27 PM
I wrote a long ass reply but then I delete it :D hahhâhhhah

Follow your instince, if you think she's lying, yes she is lying to you. I honesty believe that, she's just string you along until she find someone else since she dun have anyone right now. Có nguòi quan tâm, trò chuyện lâu lâu chăm sóc thì có lổ lả cái quái gì đâu. See too much and too many of these kinds. Khi iêu thì có trời mới cản được nói chi gia đình or bạn bè :D cross your fingers there will more ....sh....coming your way

lt8
07-27-2007, 12:45 PM
Erik is right!

My advice is to let’s relationship loose. She sounds like a liberal.
If you can’t let her go, are you covering up your self-esteem?
Do you very much miss your ex-girlfriend? If not, then there’s your answer.

:attention:

cathi
07-27-2007, 01:28 PM
I think she is not so sure that she loves you or not, if a girl really loves someone, she wouldn't make such a stupid thing like that (limit your visiting) usually, girls dont care about how much money you are going to spend for them :D that means she has something hiding from you or may be she đang có someone đeo đuổi :) dont get too close to her, give yourself a break like hang out w/ your friends get to know more people ... you will see there's alot more interesting things that you might wanna know and always remember that alot more fishes in the ocean to catch :) good luck to you

2 cents

DaPooh65
07-27-2007, 10:16 PM
Amen....for Cathi...from a girl's point of view and for being honest. Let it go before your heart got broken.

nhovephuongnam
07-28-2007, 12:44 AM
thanks for the advice guys. I'll think about it it. :(

Without_U
07-28-2007, 01:45 AM
if you really really into this girl.... then quit ur job, move in with her... hehehe

nhovephuongnam
07-28-2007, 02:26 AM
that sounds really easy. haha moi viec tuy duyen di....

buondoi
08-02-2007, 04:02 PM
NVPNO oi, 2 dua minh bi God phat do'... huh huh...

nhovephuongnam
08-13-2007, 07:04 PM
ca doi dau co lam gi bay dau, god phat cai gi ha buon doi?? :)

MeChua
08-14-2007, 11:35 AM
tại kiếp trước bro nợ her đó nên kiếp này phải cày trả nợ (tình) cho her :D
most of longdistance relationships wont last long ...Xa mặt cách lòng bro chưa nghe sao
I dont think this girl loves you as much as you do, she's still looking for someone better :) Like Erik said, she's not loving you deeply (might be just for now) but still doesn't wanna let you go either, girls (we) r just like that trust me (^_^) later on, if she find someone else better than you, she will have a lot of ways to say bye to you, but its up to you if you strongly believe in fate, her love, etc...then go ahead listen to ur heart, fight hard for ur relationship in any circumstance

Nam
08-27-2007, 10:43 PM
Ah, needs sometime to mature...especially for her.

I would not "invest" a whole lot into her right now...time will tell; just be yourself, enjoy life, meet new people...just like how she does it.

It it's meant to be yours, it will be otherwise, life is good!

Nam

aznblood
08-28-2007, 10:59 AM
NVPN,

I know how you feel b/c I've been in your shoes before. I am also twenty something years old and accepted a job away from my love one at one time. It seems so different when being apart and trying to keep in touch, especially having odd work hours among ya'll. From my experience, women seems to easily fall in love with someone close by who can easily care and support them in daily lives. Sometimes I wish that is not true but in general, women are emotion creatures and they love in the present. They are like walking flowers, they want attention from people around them. This characteristic makes it so hard for women to stay faithful w/ one person far away. On the other hand, most men love with purposes and visions. Hence, they stay faithful dispite long distance.

Dont you ever give up your job for that girl. Honestly, o da'u la`m gi`. AB dda~ la`m the^' ro^`i. Tình yêu chân thật thì o thể miển cưởng đươc. Bạn dẻ nhiên sẻ muốn cho cô ta được hạng phúc ở phương xa vì yêu là làm bất cứ chuyện gì cho cô ta được hạnh phúc. Nếu mà o duyên thì hãy tận bây giờ đi. Không thôi bạn sẻ khiến cô ta vào trình hợp bắc cá hai tay. Wish you luck.

ChiLaMuaThuRoi
08-28-2007, 12:26 PM
This characteristic makes it so hard for women to stay faithful w/ one person far away. On the other hand, most men love with purposes and visions. Hence, they stay faithful dispite long distance.

xạo ghê luôn . :D

erik
08-28-2007, 06:01 PM
xạo ghê luôn . :D

Dzợ níu muốn học cách nói chuyện nhỏ nhẹ, thì không nên nói câu đó và cười như dzị :D hahhahhâhhha....

Điệu này chắc fải học lâu năm lắm ...:laugh:

ChiLaMuaThuRoi
08-29-2007, 02:43 PM
Dzợ níu muốn học cách nói chuyện nhỏ nhẹ, thì không nên nói câu đó và cười như dzị :D hahhahhâhhha....

Điệu này chắc fải học lâu năm lắm ...:laugh:



hahaha erik ... lỡ dzớt được người nói chiện "có dziên" như dzậy , làm sao mà hông cười khoe răng cho được ? (bụm miệng lại cười :D)