Is she too shy or she is not interested?

[zxorated]

She's a Vietnamese born just came to the States about a year and her mom and aunt work with me. I started to have interests in her she's pretty cute and all and her mom and aunt know I like her. I got her numbers about a week now and made two calls. Both times she didn't pick up I got her voicemail instead so I left the first one as a hi how are you and the second one asking what she's doing for saturday and if its cool if we go out and eat or a movie. Saturday evening she texted me saying she's always busy on saturdays and she doesn't go out with someone she barely knew and it would be better if we talk first. I replied saying its fine too. And today I texted to say hi and another how are you..but I got nothing back yet. What should I do here...? Btw she's only 18 still in high school and never had a boyfriend, is she that shy? or simply not interested?

[bach_congtu]

She's a Vietnamese born just came to the States about a year and her mom and aunt work with me. I started to have interests in her she's pretty cute and all and her mom and aunt know I like her. I got her numbers about a week now and made two calls. Both times she didn't pick up I got her voicemail instead so I left the first one as a hi how are you and the second one asking what she's doing for saturday and if its cool if we go out and eat or a movie. Saturday evening she texted me saying she's always busy on saturdays and she doesn't go out with someone she barely knew and it would be better if we talk first. I replied saying its fine too. And today I texted to say hi and another how are you..but I got nothing back yet. What should I do here...? Btw she's only 18 still in high school and never had a boyfriend, is she that shy? or simply not interested?
1. Not everyone has free text message. So, if she does not text back, that does not mean anything. Nguoi ta moi qua My muh....poor financial still
2. How about give her some calls at different time? I know girls turned off their fone during classes/day
3. Maybe she has a b/f already that she does not wanna talk to you
4. Ask her mom and aunt to help you out since they know and you guys work together? Unless her mom and aunt do not like you and they told her to ignore your call? :newwink:

[May Trang]

If I were that girl, I would do the same thing. :)

[cathi]

I think you should come to her house and hang out more often if you really like her, since you work w/ her mom and aunt you can come there just show them you're a nice guy and get to know each other more before you make any further move :)

[steveh]

Or because you're too OLD :D

[GWB]

Or because you're too OLD :D

Tui cũng nghĩ là dzậy quá .... con người ta mới 18t còn đi học mà cũng hông tha :35rlaugh: :35rlaugh: :35rlaugh: thiệt tình :bigstar:

Originally Posted by zxorated
She's a Vietnamese born just came to the States about a year and her mom and aunt work with me. I started to have interests in her she's pretty cute and all and her mom and aunt know I like her. Btw she's only 18 still in high school and never had a boyfriend, is she that shy? or simply not interested?

[zxorated]

I think I should call her at a different time too. I don't think she has a bf. I just turned 22 btw. I work part time with her aunt and mom. They both are pretty nice people but they kinda know I am kinda lazy so I hope that is not the reason why her mom tells her to avoid me. Overall I'm a nice guy. About going to her house..I still need some courage first I'm not too good with dealing parents just yet. However I did ask her mom about she is not picking her cell, her mom told me that she doesn't know but the following day she texted me back about being busy on Saturday and we need to converse more before going out. I am just hoping she is shy..right?

[GWB]

I think I should call her at a different time too. I don't think she has a bf. I just turned 22 btw. I work part time with her aunt and mom. They both are pretty nice people but they kinda know I am kinda lazy so I hope that is not the reason why her mom tells her to avoid me. Overall I'm a nice guy. About going to her house..I still need some courage first I'm not too good with dealing parents just yet. However I did ask her mom about she is not picking her cell, her mom told me that she doesn't know but the following day she texted me back about being busy on Saturday and we need to converse more before going out. I am just hoping she is shy..right?

in this case i think there is nothing u should worry about, it is just "vietnamese way of life" ?? tui mà có con gái thì tui cũng hông muốn nó đi chơi với người lạ sau 2 cú điện thoại , nhất là khi nó còn đi học đại học , shy or not, u better first go to her house and let hei parents have an idea of u , lazy hả . . .not good !!! :newwink: be patient then :newwink: cha mẹ có yên tâm rồi thì may ra . .

[noshadow]

I think I should call her at a different time too. I don't think she has a bf. I just turned 22 btw. I work part time with her aunt and mom. They both are pretty nice people but they kinda know I am kinda lazy so I hope that is not the reason why her mom tells her to avoid me. Overall I'm a nice guy. About going to her house..I still need some courage first I'm not too good with dealing parents just yet. However I did ask her mom about she is not picking her cell, her mom told me that she doesn't know but the following day she texted me back about being busy on Saturday and we need to converse more before going out. I am just hoping she is shy..right?

Just general rule... Don't ask girls out over the phone. talk to them in person, make them feel comfortable, tell a joke, break the ice, then ask to her out.

[NhanhRong]

Tiến nhanh qúa, em nó còn nhỏ nên sợ đấy :D Chưa nói chuyện được bao nhiêu lần mà rủ đi xem phim rùi nên cô ta sợ. :)

[zxorated]

Troi gai VN kho qua! I guess I'm a little too westernized and rushing a young girl where she is a little scared. I'm going have to wait and slowly make my moves then. I really want to hang out with her for Halloween but this will have to wait.

[ChiLaMuaThuRoi]

Troi gai VN kho qua! I guess I'm a little too westernized and rushing a young girl where she is a little scared. I'm going have to wait and slowly make my moves then. I really want to hang out with her for Halloween but this will have to wait.



tính nhát ma con nhỏ huh zxorated ? :D

[Phalanx]

Nếu mới chat có vài ngày mà rủ em nó đi núi với đi biển thì sao ha :D
Ai trong na`y da'm di gio tay len

[MuaHaTuongTu]

First rule, don't date coworker daughter/son
Second rule, don't date coworker

[THEMATRIX]

I have a feeling she is not interested in you.

[Without_U]

I have the same feeling: She's not interested in you. By the way, If you're really into her, then try to be her friend first.

[cis]

Well, try to call 3 times if no call back then forget it bro, move on to the next one :) :). Beside, I think you are too fast to ask her out, at least talk with her about 1 month then start to ask her out for date...

[LISA]

She's a Vietnamese born just came to the States about a year and her mom and aunt work with me. I started to have interests in her she's pretty cute and all and her mom and aunt know I like her. I got her numbers about a week now and made two calls. Both times she didn't pick up I got her voicemail instead so I left the first one as a hi how are you and the second one asking what she's doing for saturday and if its cool if we go out and eat or a movie. Saturday evening she texted me saying she's always busy on saturdays and she doesn't go out with someone she barely knew and it would be better if we talk first. I replied saying its fine too. And today I texted to say hi and another how are you..but I got nothing back yet. What should I do here...? Btw she's only 18 still in high school and never had a boyfriend, is she that shy? or simply not interested?



ONE BIG THING you need to do DON'T SPEAK ENGLISH
Take sometime come to her house for a diner If her mom like you That is so easy to

[CaLiForNian]

Well, try to call 3 times if no call back then forget it bro, move on to the next one :) :). Beside, I think you are too fast to ask her out, at least talk with her about 1 month then start to ask her out for date...

why 3 times?
- only one time is enough; max is 2...

[BabyOneMoreKiss]

Yeah I think the best idea is to be her friend first, like others said you should come to her house more often likes if she need help on homework or her computer got problems v.v.v (might have to ask her's mom for more information likes you care about her) also since you're working with her mom/aunt, you have the oppotunity because the first target you should go for is her mom (without her permission you can't do anything). So I think you should do something to make them trusted you a good guy "likes not being lazy anymore" hehe. I'm just afraid that she's not interest in you or she feel like doesn't want to have a boyfriend yet, other than that good luck!

[zxorated]

Okay an update. Well it has been a month since I last spoke with her thinking she was rejecting me slowly but today she came into work with her mom and was there for the whole day. On my part we just kinda smile at eachother through out the day because I kinda still feel bad because she didn't pick up my previous 2 phone calls. Her aunt and mom keep telling me I need to be braver if I wanna date their daughter..so does this mean I still have a chance? I don't know. I'm beginning to think she's the shy but want a guy to truly like her to pursue her and not take her for an easy girl. They keep joking at work all day how I should call her mom mom and such and break the ice and start becoming more friendlier with her. So what is the deal? When it comes down I think its really up to her to decide if she's interested not her mom right? But she's killing me by not letting me know.

[CaLiForNian]

Okay an update. Well it has been a month since I last spoke with her thinking she was rejecting me slowly but today she came into work with her mom and was there for the whole day. On my part we just kinda smile at eachother through out the day because I kinda still feel bad because she didn't pick up my previous 2 phone calls. Her aunt and mom keep telling me I need to be braver if I wanna date their daughter..so does this mean I still have a chance? I don't know. I'm beginning to think she's the shy but want a guy to truly like her to pursue her and not take her for an easy girl. They keep joking at work all day how I should call her mom mom and such and break the ice and start becoming more friendlier with her. So what is the deal? When it comes down I think its really up to her to decide if she's interested not her mom right? But she's killing me by not letting me know.

you should try harder & be persistent. follow your heart.

[nfow]

why don't you talk to her mom. ask her to ask her daughter if she's interested in you. i bet she won't lie to her own mother.

[nhoqua]

You still have a chance, zxorated. If her mom and aunt don't like you, they wouldn't let you know her numbers or told you to be braver; If she rejects you, she wouldn't come to her mom work place,where she knew you could see her and talk to her for the whole day. She's young, still in school and just came to the State, she can't decide herself in some points. You should give her more time to know you. But why don't you call her by her home phone ?