i am so confused...

[lobster]

the story goes like this. i have been going out with my current girlfriend for a few years now. everything was going fine and we were in a serious relationship. we talked about marriage but haven't gone through with it because both of us are still in school. however, i just ran into an old friend in college. i met her 7 years ago when we were freshmen in college. damn, i just gave away my age. anyway, i had a crush with this girl for some time. we weren't really close friend but i occasionally saw her at parties, club events in college. since we're going to the same professional school for the last two years, we have been emailing each other just to say hello and talk about school stuff. well, last weekend, she called me up to ask me if i want to go for vietnamese food. we went to have pho for dinner and after that i took her to my place to show her my apartment. we were just watching tv and chatting with my roommate. during our conversation, she told my roommate that she knew i had a crush with her before because one of my friend told her. this was the first time this issue was brought up between me and her. it was getting late, so i offered to take her home. she said no because she didn't want me to take the train back by myself. my roommate told her sleep over if she didn't mind. she took the offer. i gave her my pillows and blanket and told her to sleep on the futon in the living room and i will sleep in my room. she insisted that i share the blanket with her because she didn't want me to get sick. she was so persistent and i was a little weak so i agreed to her suggestion. i knew that it's not a good idea since i am involved with someone at the moment. i didn't make any move. we slept. nothing happened. i made breakfast for her and she left. since then, i have been thinking a lot about my current relationship and the incident last weekend. i feel really guilty about it because it's certainly a wrong thing to do to my girlfriend. also, i am wondering if i am even in love my current girlfriend because i kept thinking about that night. another puzzling thing to me is this girl. i don't know what she wants. Was she just being friendly or something else? Anyway, if any of you have any experience with this or feedback, i would appreciate.

[ShyGirl]

I agree with tia, 2 thumbs up for tia, you're so cool

I think that girl was trying to seduce you and luckily you didn't fall into her temptation b/c i believed you are inlove with your current girlfriend. If you ever see that girl again, and if she bring up any subject about the 2 of you hooking up, then tell her that you have a gf already, tell her that you are very inlove with her and you're planning to get married. If she is a nice girl, she will respect your decision, and your feeling, she will back off. And if she don't, then this girl is not the one for you, beside, people changes over time, and for 7 years, that's alot of changes. You need to be strong and be careful around her, you will never know what she will do. I wish you the best with your girlfriend, yay! ;) ;) ;)

[lobster]

hi tia & shygirl,
i appreciate your comments very much. i was in a great need to talk about it how i was feeling and it's impossible to tell any of my friends. actually, i feel better now since that old feeling i once had for this girl has subsided. i guess there is always a special place in my memory for her as she was one of my first love. however, i must think about the present. i am thinking about avoiding contact with her for the sake of my current relationship and my poor heart. i don't think i need to tell her about my relationship with my current girlfriend because she knows that already. again, thank you. take care.

[Saigonian]

Lobster,

I really understand you feeling right now. I have been there, and I know that it is no fun at all. We are all have our conscience to remind us of who we are, and the values that we stand for. Just in my opinion, it doesn't really matter what has happened. What you need to recognize is that the consequences of loving two people at the same time is so great. Unless you are so sure in your heart about the new encounter. Otherwise, your current relationship is probably worth everything to sacrifice for. It is not cool at all when love turning into hurt, and loving two people can make both of your companions hurt very very bad. And I know that you wouldn't think of anything in the world that would make you do that to them, right? So, be courageous and do the right thing.

good luck
SG